Have been working quite hard all week and somewhat distracted. I’d taken a scroll through the blog and thought to myself that it had become too impersonal and, in a moment of irrationality, decided to do something that several months ago I said I’d no longer do – posting personal details here.

The result was exactly what I should have expected. Comments making judgements about my choices from people who do not share the same morals or philosophy and who are somehow convinced that their way is the only way. Comments telling me what I need or what T needs from total strangers who for some reason seem convinced that they hold the keys to the mysteries of life. The blog equivalent of a drive-by shooting – some stranger “driving past,” stopping to take a look, taking a minute or two to leave some comment that more often than not makes it seem that they misunderstood something I wrote. Or not.

Naturally, the only person who is to blame for this is myself. By putting myself on public display, I’m leaving the blog open to all commenters, linked, nicknamed, anonymous. By being a poor writer, I’ve left things open to misinterpretation and assumption. I temporarily forgot that my view of the world is not universally shared.

Actually I’m grateful to everyone who took the time to post a comment. I believe that each of you thinks you were trying to help. I recognize the validity of your opinions and choices even as you do not recognize mine. I took the time to read each comment carefully. However, I choose not respond individually and I remained essentially unmoved by almost everything that was posted.

I recognize that I’m not perfect and that I don’t always make the right choices. And while I do believe that much of life is learning from one’s mistakes, you and I may have different ideas of what constitutes “a mistake.” I think that by and large I don’t repeat the same mistakes too often, though I do find there is no shortage of new mistakes out there for me to make. I realize that I have some decisions to make. And that attempting to work them out by posting the issues here does not provide a solution.

So thanks to one and all. We now return to our regularly scheduled programming.

Hongkie Town
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